Just a thought

Comment by PrezOfWeb on March 31, 2012 at 9:57pm

Maybe that's why we (allegedly) seek the approval of those who we have empowered to give it. We are the ones who have placed a value on the approval, it's worth in gold or tears.

Comment by SydTheSkeptic on March 31, 2012 at 10:40pm

"Do I contradict myself? Very well, then I contradict myself, I am large, I contain multitudes." -Walt Whitman, from Song of Myself

I love that:  I contain multitudes.

Comment by sillysillytom on April 1, 2012 at 2:03am

yes I've been affected by some thinks that folks have said when I shouldn't and many times only because it caught me off guard. 

Comment by Helen on April 1, 2012 at 6:10am

"what other people think of me is none of my business" (Paraphrased) - Victoria

True for those who are not significant parts of our lives.

Even the significant ones get it wrong sometimes, I have this feeling of people being "complicated creatures" as you say but also of people being somewhat fluid and unknowable in totality. This could be because when we know someone we know them as they relate to us and this makes them different when they relate to someone else. We know the relationship rather than the person. Maybe.

Emotions may not be logical but they can help understand self and the world around.

Enjoyed listening to you Dan. Great video.

Comment by christine-quintessential on April 1, 2012 at 8:11am

I decided on my sixteenth birthday that I wouldn't rate peoples' opinions of me because if you have ten people in a room they would all say something different so what's the point of taking any one of them as the correct one?

To your own self be true.

I hope you have a good day. The sun is actually shining here right now!

 

 

 

Comment by Al the Doctor Who on April 1, 2012 at 8:39am

I had a friend That I use to hang out with back in 1976 AKA (Petty Pop a Wheelie) he was very much like you and we got along because we both had this way of over analyzing situations that in the long run would make no difference. He gave me a book to read. It was called how to stop victimizing your self. It was only then that I realized That I am wasting my time and that I was. Your a good person Raven. I am happy that we spent some time together c];-) 

Comment by PMDunn on April 1, 2012 at 9:59am

Yup, I can relate to your open thoughts... speaking for myself, suffering from PTSD, I think I have come to realize that self confidence or lack of, is generated from experiences and conditioning. When we are really young, we are far more impressionable...manipulated by experience. For example, the military likes to recruit us when we are at that vulnerable, manipulative, impressionable age for the logical reason that we are easily intimidated or easier to mold into what they want from us.

As a child, we are sort of conditioned to look outside ourselves for that "assessment". We measure or seek out a sense of worth by how others treat us. It is hard to look in the mirror and see that person others see...but that's where it's okay to take a self assessment, and ask yourself..."Am I living up to my own values, Do I have integrity...do I ask or expect anything of someone that I would not ask of myself? It really matters not what other's may think of you, only what you think of yourself. My Mom, used to tell me..."You can't be censured for what you think, only for what you say".

I enjoyed your blog... ;-) ~ P

Comment by Diesel Bodine on April 1, 2012 at 11:14am

Keep using "modicum" and you'll be on the right track. Emotionalism can be highly over-rated, overused, one-sided and often unnecessarily detrimental to the best route for better understanding, since it deals with subjective feelings over objective facts. Vulcans! XD

Comment by SensualWhirl on April 1, 2012 at 12:40pm

All good comments. Nothing for me to add really, other than I'm glad to see you too. 

Comment by Ron Schira on April 1, 2012 at 1:33pm

"what other people think of me is none of my business" (Paraphrased) - Victoria

Good phrase, Vic -

Dan, I can only be responsible for what I think of myself, otherwise I am constantly modeling myself after someone else's misconceptions, which are only applicable to them. Besides, I have other, more important things to consider.

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